You enjoy keeping letters, photos, and other memorabilia to remind you of experiences by taking you down memory lane. Your friend is having a get-together and you know the perfect outfit to wear. Pulling it from the closet, memories of your last break-up come flooding back. Although the colors and style bring out your best physical qualities, you wore this attire when you passed that final milestone in a relationship gone bad. Every time you wear it, bad things seem to happen. Why is that?
Just because you can put a particularly negative situation “out of your mind,” doesn’t mean the memory is gone, you are only suppressing the memory. The thoughts, feelings, and even tastes or smells you embed deep in your mind remain. The same condition may apply with places you visit, live in, or work at. The next time you go into work, try to remember your feelings from the first time you saw the fountain, your desk, or even a person. Now imagine how your perception changes to the thoughts you entertain about those same things today.
When an occurrence of negativity has a profound enough affect that you dwell on the incident longer than an hour, you can count on a permanent stamp mentally because the energy remains. While you may not be able to change where you live or work, you can donate or throw away items that retain the negativity memory enhancers you are able to discard. Perhaps you can redecorate the room in your home, or even move items into an alternate position in the room.
At work, this may be the perfect opportunity for you to plan advancement, changing the scenery and increasing your pay at the same time. (Just avoid making the same mistake again, if possible.) You certainly do not need your entire future to receive rain from an event that happened ages ago. Replace the old with the new as quickly as feasibly possible and begin a new chapter.