When your friend asks you for advice, do you give it? When you give it, how often are you told you are full of it? (Unless you’re one of the Three Stooges, not often!) Your friends more than likely think enough like you that your solution makes sense, or inspires them to approach it from a new angle. Are you the type of friend you can trust? Here’s how to find out — journal.
That’s right, keep a journal. Journals are one of the things that few plan on recording a life history in order to create a movie. And starting to write may seem mundane and drab at first, but after about a year, the results will stupify you at how much you did know, and how much more you know now. The longer you journal, the more it will surprise you.
The best part is that you will find some answers from a reliable source you can trust — you. You see, history does repeat itself, sometimes a different shade, but recognizeable still. This advice is someone you already know. Do it, it works.
At first it’s a new habit, so put it somewhere you will see each night so you write in it the same time every night, when your day is winding to a close. (Also good therapy for sleep, by the way.) You can be your own worst enemy, or your own best friend, and this is the perfect way to find out which you are.
P.S. A journal is NOT a diary, so refrain from writing anything highly emotional that isn’t under lock and key.
The phrase of Nature’s abhor of a vacuum that always manages to fill a void is undeniably true. When an undesirable habit has a replacement by a habit that leaves a more pleasant taste in your mouth, it is generally a challenge that takes some time to accomplish. You already know that “bad habits are hard to break,” but how did you acquire it in the first place? That all comes down the subconscious, subliminal, and other in-depth processes we cannot cover in this short period, however, let’s take it one step at a time.
Your mind is like a glass bottle, in that when the contents of the bottle cease to be, the bottle is not truly empty–it is now full of air. The same goes for your mind as it will be full of something, whether you put the information in, or allow someone else to channel you. The hard truth is the more you allow certain thoughts to take up residency, the more often those thoughts will occur until you have developed a habit, and changing that habit is extremely difficult, but not impossible with patience.
You must make a conscious effort in order to recondition your mind. For instance, if you know you have anger issues to where your temper takes over at inappropriate times, this could end up costing you a lot whether it be a relationship, a large purchase, or even a working position. This thought needs to be rechanneled by first realizing and taking responsibility for the action, and then neutralizing it with a positive affirmation such as, “No one has the right to decide how I will react but me, no matter what she says, and no one can make me angry or feel guilty without me feeding into her sales pitch. No one has the right to control my emotions without my permission.”
Stop and look at the last day or so and ask yourself how many times your emotions make decisions for you. It is time to turn the vacuum off and reverse it to blow the bad habits out, creating more room for good ones.
When you know about computers, you know that GIGO refers to “garbage in – garbage out” because a lot of unnecessary information is placed into storage until deliberate removal takes place. There are programs to assist in the process that can run automatically during the night while you sleep, or you can manually begin the programs deleting history, viruses, or other issues your computer is not agreeing with, which may cause it to slow down.
Your mind is your body’s computer, and suspiciously enough, it is similar to a computer in many ways. Your mind will be fed, whether you intentionally feed it or not, and it is not just what passes down the esophagus. Sure, what you digest is certainly important in keeping your mind healthy, but even more important than food is what you entertain or exercise your mind with during the day, or even while you sleep and dream.
When you allow your mind to have healthy and nourishing input, it will become strong and responsive, but if you restrict it to negative, unhealthy, and unproductive input, you are essentially feeding it “junk food.” This garbage out would be better off not being exposed to your mind in the first place.
Feed your mind a healthy, balanced diet including information in a variety of fields, or the latest trends. You will be happily surprised to realize how much more positive a person you become by “defragging” your mind to fill it with ideas to benefit you, instead of take away from healthy thoughts.